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Posted by : Ridwan Sobirin Sunday, July 1, 2012
Have you ever felt worried excessively about things that unlikely to happen? Last night, one of my best friend, Gusti, reminded me about worries.
Well, first personally I do believe that worries and fears are normal part of life. So, there is nothing wrong with worries. It is normal to be anxious about our upcoming grades or to worry about our finances condition, isn't it?
By the way, what is worrying feel like according to you, fellas? For me, personally, worrying is a feeling of unease and fear that courses through our body. We sit predicting the fearful outcomes the future will bring us. We hold on to the negative future projection and be anxious about it. Yapz, to be honest those are that we call as worries, I think.
We may feel that worry comes from the outside (Probably it could come from people and event that makes you stress out, or some difficult situations you are facing). Hmmm... In this case, I agree that the trigger comes from outside indeed, but again, personally I believe that the internal running dialogue within us maintains the anxiety itself. When we are worrying, we are talking to ourself about things we are afraid of or negative events that might happen, aren't we?
In some cases, worrying may give us the impression that we are protecting ourself by preparing for the worst or avoiding bad situations. But in other hand, some people think that worrying is unproductive since it is sapping our mental and emotional energy without resulting in any concrete actions, they said. What do you think, fellas?
How to stop worrying:
For me, personally, I will probably use some strategies below in order to overcome my worries:
Constant worrying takes a heavy toll. It keeps you up at night and makes you tense and edgy during the day. That's why I will do these small activities below which can reduce or even eliminate my worries.. Probably it sounds crazy. Hahaha. But this is my way:
I will climb up the mountain. Lie on the grass. Take in a beautiful view. Walk around a pretty green park. Look at an interesting pictures. Listen to soothing music. Breathe in the fresh air. Cook a delicious meal. Enjoy sitting outside in the cool breeze or go for biking. Hahaha. What do you think? :p
Don't forget to ask your positive and trusted friends or family to accompany you in doing those activities. Trust me, it can lead you to a better feeling level.
We are all social creatures. We are not meant to live in isolation, right? Connecting to others is vital to our emotional health. Do not underestimate the benefit of a few people we can trust and count on to be there for you. Talk it out when your worries start spiraling. If you start to feel overwhelmed with anxiety, call a trusted family or friend. Just talking out loud about your worries can make them seem less threatening. It’s helpful to bounce your worries off. Choose someone who can give you a balance and objective perspective.
Live by the moment. There is no reality to the images you create in your mind about the future. Look back on your life and see how many things you worried about really happened. In most cases, it will be none. The only moment which is under the influence of your control is the present moment. Rest in the now and see how beautiful life is.
Be prepared for the worst. Try to find out another way or plan. Prepare your mentality. Look for an good environment which always gives you positive feedback. I just believe that Allah will give the best for us. The things that we need to do is to give our very best efforts and put our heart into it. Feeling down is humane, isn't it? Keep giving our best until we can give no more. Insya Allah somewhere in the future we will gain something else, probably the better one.
So thank you so much Gusti for reminding me regarding worries.
Hope all is well with your days ahead. Live your life, Gus!
Hope all is well with your days too, guys!
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